10 Things You Should NEVER Do At The Start Of The Relationship!
By- Shreya Sharma
When you begin a new relationship, you are excited but still, there is some fear because you do not want to repeat your old mistakes or fall into the trap of same old things. And sometimes we are over excited to get things right this time, that it backfire big time. Some of us enter into the new relationship with the baggage of old relationship without wondering that it will harm our present relationship. You need to be careful in the initial stage of your relationship. Here are 10 things you should not do at the start of the relationship.
Do not rush into things
Do not rush into the relationship as soon as your other relationship ends. And if you are in a relationship, do not rush into things else you will appear to be crazy and desperate. This is not the time to decide where your relationship is going or to make things official on Facebook.
Do not try to be perfect
Do not try to be someone you are not. Be who you are and let the other person accept you for the way you are. This is just the start of the relationship and you cannot assume what he wants, so trying to act ideal will make things worse.
Do not go OTT with things
You need to take things slow as it is just the start of the relationship. Getting t-shirts with both of your pictures is premature at this stage and is sure to freak the other person out! Take it slow, keep your eyes, ears, and mind open.
Do not lie to him
You might think that a little white lie or two will not hamper your relationship, but it will actually make things difficult later because gradually when the relationship will grow, he will know that you were lying. And this will make it hard for him trust you. Do not lie to him even if you are uncomfortable discussing something.
Say no to sex
You have just started knowing him, why would you want to get into something intimate with someone you hardly know. It is better to stay safe and know the person better.
No more games
Do not play hard to get, damsel in distress or make him jealous intentionally. This is manipulative and destructive and gradually your partner will get tired of it. You are together to take things forward and not to play games.
Stop being possessive
Fine, everyone demands loyalty in the relationship, but being controlling and dominating will not work in your favor. You can use social media to know more about the other person, but not to spy on them. Do not use the information gathered from social media against him because it will end your relationship.
Do not let him treat you like a doormat
If you cannot be dominating, you cannot be the doormat as well. You should not act meek and submissive when you are a fireball in reality. Do not lower your standards at the start of your relationship to let your relationship grow.
No more assumptions
It is just the start and you are learning and getting to know the other person. Your assumptions will only hurt you and affect your judgment. You need to keep your past emotional baggage away.
Do not force him to commit
This is just the start of your relationship; it is the time you know each other better and not the time to force him to commit to you. Giving him the ultimatum will make him run away from you. Let things flow smooth for a while and then you will have the chance to decide the direction.