8 Ways Breakup Changes You For Better… You Never Knew!

By- Shreya Sharma

When a relationship ends it is not just a separation of two people, it is end of an era, and era that had you two, your love, your feelings and your moments. All the love, warmth, care and feelings turn into sadness, guilt, anger, pain, resentment and even hatred.  We all have been through this and we all have survived that phase. We learn from it and grow and become better, stronger and wiser. Here are the ways breakup changes you for better you never knew.

1. You understand that you are not defined by your relationship

We lose our self in a relationship and all that matters is the other person. We are so indulged into them that we forget that we do have our individual life as well. When a relationship ends, it almost turns into identity crises. It is your opportunity to find your true self and soul.

2. You understand it is better to be alone than to settle for less

If you think you cannot be happy on your own, you will end up sacrificing your priorities, values, beliefs and self-esteem in order to be in a relationship. After breakup you realize it is better to be alone and work for your own happiness than to settle for less than you deserve and work for their happiness.

3. You will learn to let go

We all face loss in life time and again, be it breakup, death of loved one or being fired from job. Letting go surely hurts but the choice is yours to hold on and let it keep hurting you or to move on and have a better life. Breakup teaches us to let go of things and move on because life does not stop there.

4. You will learn the art of forgiveness

Usually relationships end at an ugly notch and in the heat of moment we speak things that we regret later. Forgiving does not mean that you accept what they did to you or you forget about it, it just means you do not want to carry anger and resentment as you know it is not productive.

5. You will understand your growth opportunities

When a relationship falls apart, it is rarely a chance that it will be just one person’s fault. There are two sides of a story and the other person’s side can teach you about yourself. Listen to their side of story instead of taking it as blame and give their point of view a serious consideration and put it to good use.

6. What you want from your life

Every relationship is an opportunity to learn about your likes and dislikes, your values and passion and what you want from life. Because when you are in a relationship, you spend a lot of time with your partner and do things that they love and there you can find about your likes and dislikes.

7. What you want in your partner

With every relationship, we learn what we want from our partner and what the things we cannot accept in our partner are. Eventually we move on, but we should better not make the same mistakes and look out for a guy who almost satisfies the qualities you want.

8. You can only change yourself and not others

We think our relationship will be perfect if our significant other change certain habits or behavior but the truth is you cannot make them change and that is where your relationship fails. You can either accept them the way they are or not. You can set boundaries and limits for yourself and change yourself but not others.