I do not know about a lot but I do wish that life had a rule book and someone just guided me through everything. There are times we all feel frustrated and stressed out with our life. And at those times, we wish we are provided with a rule book that helps us live our life to the maximum. There should be rules that bring you happiness and inner peace. Here are 22 life secret rules to never be unhappy again.
Treat people the way you want to be treated
This is the golden rule of life. The better you treat others, the better they will treat you. Be nice and kind to other people, so they return you the favor. Do it for them and do it for yourself, your life will be peaceful.
Do not take things personally
Thinking that you are the center of the universe is not going to help you. Everyone has their own issues and problems. How people behave has very little to do with you and a lot to do with the kind of person they are. You are not always at fault, so do not take things personally and stop blaming yourself.
If you cannot change it, leave it
There are times when we mentally and emotionally fight with an issue that we cannot change. We are simply wasting our energy as we know we just cannot change it. You know you cannot change it, so why to worry about it. Accept it the way it is.
It is only a problem
As they say “Jo hota hai ache ke liye hota hai”; so, even a bad situation in our life can be to our benefit. Choose people who choose you. If the guy you like is not kind enough to text you back, then it is time to move on because you do not need someone who cannot respect you.
There is nothing as failure
We all fear failure, but the truth is, if you scrutinize the situation again, you can actually learn from it. Look for the lesson in every failure, so that you do not end up repeating the same mistake.
You need not be perfect
There is nothing as perfection. Everyone has the different definition of perfect, what is perfect to me, may not be perfect to the other person. “Perfect” is a subjective issue. It is all based on a person’s perception.
Stop caring about what other’s think
We all want people to like us and love us. We want people to admire us. But you know you cannot please everyone. It is important that you stay true to yourself instead of molding yourself according to what pleases others. Other people’s opinion is none of your business.
It is all about your point of view
The way you view things become your reality. If you lost your job instead of complaining about it, take it is an opportunity to find something better. Look at the positive side of every situation.
Take personal responsibility
Life is not a competition, so do not think taking responsibility will make you lose the game. People appreciate when you are mature enough to own up your words and actions. Give it a try and take up the responsibility.
Do not expect from others
We all wish to change people and expect from them to change according to our expectations, but sadly, you just cannot change people. Expectations only lead to disappointment and frustration. Try to have no expectations.
Do not try to change people
We all want other people to behave in the way we want them to, but sadly they do not. Our efforts in trying to change them go in vain. It is exhausting and frustrating. It is simply waste of time. Be with people you are already compatible with, and accept people for who they are.
Go with the flow
Sailing your boat against the current will only make things difficult for you. If you feel that you are trying hard but in vain, then it is better you stop and change your direction. Find out the flow of energy in your life. That is a much better direction to go.
Monitor your self-talk
Have you ever witnessed and thought of the monolog you have with yourself? You will be surprised to see how negative it is. You need to monitor your monologs and change the thoughts that are holding you back. You can exercise your power over your thoughts, actions, and attitudes. Make your monologs positive.
Perception is reality
Two people might be looking at the same thing or experiencing the same thing, still, they will view it differently. Everybody has their own perception and their perception is their own reality. Allow others to see things from their viewpoint.
Forgive and let go
Forgiving is done not for others but for yourself so that you do not have to carry the baggage and negative energy anymore. Free yourself from the burden, forgive and move on.
Stop acting like a victim
Acting and thinking that you are the victim of every circumstance is a way of taking away your own power. There is always something that you can do; you can take some action or change your thinking. The power lies within you, do not give others too much power over your life.
Relationships grow like plants
The way you have to water plants to let them grow, the same way you have to put efforts into your relationship so that they do not die. Do not take people for granted and always put in your efforts in a relationship if you want it to grow.
There are people who have everything, and still, they find ways to bitch and complain about life. There is always something to be grateful for or to appreciate, even the little things or grand things like family or partner’s love. Appreciate what you have.
Think before you speak
Words have so much power that they can either make a person feel good or can hurt them bad. Be careful of the words you speak to others and to yourself. Use your words to spread love and positivity.
Be empathic towards others
Be kind and compassionate towards others. Try to see life from other’s point of view and feel their pain and joy. If everyone has the feeling of empathy, the world will be one peaceful place. Practice empathy in your life.
Anything is possible
There are people who have defied odds. Miracles happen and you just need to be open to them. Work towards your goals, be open-minded, kind-hearted and believe that anything is possible.
Everything begins and ends with you only in your life. If you cannot love yourself, you cannot love others.