10 Things You Understand From Your First *Loving* Relationship!
By- Shreya Sharma
There are many girls who prefer to wait for someone who will change their life rather than fall for a wrong person. They prefer to wait rather than settling for someone less than they deserve. People may say that you have set your standards high, but your standards are not too high and you should never settle for someone less than you deserve. Once you get into your first relationship and love, it will teach you a lot. Here are 10 things you understand from your first loving relationship.
You expect everything and nothing at all
You wait for your man who will bring love and butterflies in your life. True, when you are in love, you feel all the butterflies and love and life seems more bearable when you have someone share it with. But then, you have spent all your life being independent and now you have to share everything with someone. It can be hard for you initially, but let your guards down and it will be all good.
He may not be special at first, but he will mean the world to you
Initially, you might not be interested in him because, for you, he was too carefree and loud. But when you give him a chance, you will realize how you can relate to him and how he is so caring. You might slowly and gradually start to fall for him. You will have to struggle and in the end, it will be all worth it.
You will have a best friend
If your man can be your best friend then you are lucky enough. We all want our man to hold the door for us, kiss us and hug us and bring flowers for us. But he should also be someone with whom you can share your inside jokes and can be totally stupid. Date a guy who can be your best friend.
Laugh more, fight less
You should know how to make each other happy. You will feel bad if you keep on arguing with the guy you love. You will not feel good seeing them angry or upset. Enjoy and appreciate little things and pick your fights wisely rather than fighting over everything.
Love is a two-way street
If you feel he does not care for you, then he probably does not. Be with someone who cares for you enough and will be there for you whenever you need him. If you put in your efforts and he does not reciprocate it, then it is better you leave him before you are so engaged that it hurt you the most.
You will have awkward situations
When you date for the first time, it is hard to open up, share your secrets and trust them. There will be physical closeness which can be awkward for you. As long as you are comfortable with yourself, you can laugh about it. But do not be with a guy who pressurizes you into doing something that you are not ready for.
Your partner actually cares for you and wants to know when you are upset. Talk about whatever is in your mind and whatever disturbs you. Talking will help you have a better relationship and prevent issues later. Talk with your partner about everything.
It is about self-love and self-acceptance
If you cannot love yourself, you cannot love someone else. Learn to love yourself and make yourself happy rather than waiting for someone else to make you happy. Accept yourself and figure out who you are and what you want.
Learn to live your life
Initially, you might balance out things and not act like a clingy girlfriend, but after a while, the jealousy factor take a toll and you start to send multiple texts, wish to spend your time with him and get upset when he want to do things without you. Just because you are in a relationship does not mean that you should depend on him. Have your own life and learn to live your life on your own, away from the relationship.
You will never know anything about love, but you will know when it feels right
No one can describe what is love or that feeling. It’s when your heart jumps when you see a text from them, and when it jumps, even more, when they touch you. It’s those butterflies you get every time you see them. It’s when you think of the dumbest thing they’ve ever said and smile for the longest time as you remember every detail about that day. It is, wanting to talk about the person all the time. You will just know when it feels right.