12 Things to understand about being in a relationship
When you first enter in a relationship it’s all about how you feel, how you can’t get enough of each other and your life feels totally awesome. But does it stays like that throughout the relationship? Well the answer depends how you go about your relationship. Every relationship needs little bit re-tuning time and again. And here are some pointers we compiled for you.
Loud and clear Communication
Well it is not easy as it seems, being open up to someone about your insecurities and issues. Your partner cannot read your mind. If you’re upset with them, tell them. You need some me-time, say so. Otherwise it won’t take long for misunderstandings to creep up your relationship. You don’t want that so being straight forward and honest is the best you can be.
Be honest and fiercely loyal
You don’t have to lie about something to your partner be it good or bad let them decide don’t just anticipate their reactions first and decide based on that. And you can’t be a blabbermouth in your relationship. What happens between you two stays between you two. Guys you don’t want others to know that you are having any disagreement. You gotta show united front after all!
Pick your battle wisely.
Every disagreement doesn’t need to blow out in the fight. Even though you’re a couple, you’re two separate person that have different personalities and understandings -which are okay and normal. It’s healthy to voice your opinions or frustration in a calm manner but let it go afterwards. Every disagreement doesn’t have to involve an intense clash.
Compromise is the key.
No, this is not about one of you winning or losing. And it’s not so bad as it sounds. Relationship is a lot like partnership and partnership is nothing without compromise. And if you truly care about your partner, then compromising will be like second nature. It just makes life simpler and a lot better.
Learn to laugh…. Together!
Just like we need to breathe to survive, your love always needs a breath of fresh air to flourish. You can’t spend all your free time “working” on your relationship—don’t make it a hobbit. Everything doesn’t need to be so dramatic if you’re able to find humor during one of your fights. Some of the serious and silly problems can be solved by laughing till your partner catches up.
Maintain a balance
Date time and alone time is an absolute must and sitting down watching your favorite movie doesn’t count. Make time for each other. It is very important that each one of partner make time for each other and acknowledge the relationship between them as a priority.
YES! Who doesn’t love surprises. Send flowers, have a lunch date or give an unexpected hug. It helps keeps your relationship fresh. Surprises don’t have to be every day, weekly or monthly occurrence but never miss any opportunity to show your partner that how much you love them. Keeps that spice going!
Don’t love one-dimensional-ly
If you love someone then.. feel it, say it, show it and be it. Do more than just tell them, show them. Let them feel your respect and your devotion towards them and your relationship. Ensure that your commitment and passion are always known and unquestionable. Show them what they mean to you, what they are to you in your life.
Keep that passion going
These are the like cornerstones of a loving relationship. Being great together just won’t cut it. There has to be the want or desire to be together as a couple. You may think that the spark has gone, but there are too many ways to rekindle it. A little kink is always welcome, so all you gotta do is try.
Forgiveness and acceptance
Once you learn from a fight, you can apply that lesson to your relationship to avoid any trouble later on. But this is not all. Forgive your partner! Forgive yourself. The fight is over, you’re past it, now let it go. Sometimes things are easier to get over than others, but the reality is that, you can’t fix things all the times. You can’t always make problems go away. You have to accept them and move on, or else your relationship will crumble.
Welcome the change
Guys, life is too short to just live – you should explore it to the fullest. If you wish to try something new or go back to something old, you should find support in your relationship. And you should also give this support in return. If you want your partner to stay the same, you’re going to have a very boring life together.
Without trust, there is no relationship.
Trust is one of the, if not THE, most important building blocks in any relationship. You have to trust your partner NOT blindly. This takes us back to the communication aspect – if you are communicating with each other, then there would be no doubts and trust issues. You won’t feel the need to know what your partner is doing, who they are with, etc. because you know they are committed to you.