12 Things You SHOULD Know Before Your Wedding Night!
By- Shreya Sharma
The wedding is not an event of just one day, it is a long journey. You plan for it, shopping, execution, rituals and the final wedding day. And it will exhaust your physically, mentally and emotionally. And then there will be the anticipation of the first night. You need to calm down and relax. Here are 12 things you should know before your wedding night.
It will be awkward
No matter how much you know each other, your first night will be awkward. You will be confused on what to say or do. You will be dealing with so many emotions. You might feel odd being naked, your lingerie might not work as you thought or you both might just doze off. Relax, he too is nervous.
Make it special
You would have imagined your first night to be perfect. But remember that it is just you and him, and no one will know what happened inside the room. Focus on making it special and intimate for you two. This is not the only night; you will have many nights to come.
Leave your past behind
Keep your past outside the relationship. Do not bring your past into your married life. Do not ever compare your man with anyone. The first night is for two of you, not for someone else.
Lower down your expectations
Having high expectations can set you for disappointment. It is better you go with the flow rather than planning things. You two may end up dozing off cuddling.
It is nothing like in movies and novels
Making love on the wedding night is not neat and romantic act that is shown in the movies. It can be awkward, messy and fun.
It might hurt
If it is your first time, you might bleed and have pain. It might even hurt if you have had sex, but this time it is a new guy. Sex can hurt for many reasons. Relax, take a deep breath and try again the next night.
Wear something comfortable and sexy
Do not wear something that does not fit you well, however sexy it looked on the model in the brochure. You should feel comfortable in it, and then you will feel sexy.
This night is not just about sex
It is the start of your life together. Marriage is not just about sex, it is about togetherness and connecting emotionally, mentally and spiritually.
You will learn slowly
You might feel odd on your wedding night and you might think that you are doing it all wrong. Remember you had the most tiring day of your life and it is just the beginning.
You will not know everything
You will be nervous. And no matter how much you have read about it, sex after marriage is a different game. There will be a lot to learn.
We all have cousins or friends who are married who are ready to share some wisdom about first night with you. Ask them and clarify your doubts.
Talk about it
Learn to communicate and engage, so that he knows what is going on with you. He cannot read your mind. It is better you communicate about what you want and what you like and dislike.