13 Questions YOU Should Ask Yourself Before Getting Married!
By- Shreya Sharma
Marriage is not about sex or money; it is about committing yourself to someone and taking responsibility as a team. People change and you have to accept this fact because in marriage this fact runs the long way and helps you sustain your relationship. Marriage should last despite all the changes in person, circumstance or any other thing. There are things that you need to consider before getting married. Here are 13 questions you should ask yourself before getting married.
Is this what I really want?
Is marriage what you really want? Will it make you happy? Do not consider about other’s expectations, focus on what you expect and want from life. Before taking this big decision of your life, think hard if you really want this.
Am I ready for this?
Ask yourself if you are ready to tie the knot or not. Think if you are ready to tie yourself with this one person for the rest of your life. if you have even a single doubt, step back and put the idea of marriage on hold.
Is marriage necessary?
Ask yourself if marriage is even necessary? Are you comfortable living an unmarried single life? Research all your options before deciding what you want.
Can I do this forever?
People get married with the confidence that their marriage will last forever. If you have doubt about being with this person for the rest of your life, step back. You must be strong with the idea that you will sail the boat till the end.
Are you ready to have a family?
Think if you want to have kids. If you are getting married just to start the family, then stop yourself. Think whether you want kids in your future. Raising a family is a serious commitment and you should not take it lightly.
Why am I doing this?
Get married for the right reason and the reason is when you find love. If you are doing it under pressure or to feel more secure, question yourself that why you want to get married? The institution of marriage is sacred and not something to do to achieve your goals.
Do we have debt?
Share your financial statuses with each other before getting married. Talk about your bank balance, saving plans and debt. Before getting married, it is important to get rid of debt and have a solid financial background. Be financially responsible together and if you cannot, then do not go for marriage.
Can we afford to get married?
Weddings are not cheap and you have to spend hefty of an amount for the ceremony. Ask yourself if you can afford getting married because you will not want to start your life together with debts and favors.
What if we cannot have kids?
Discuss with your partner what the two of you will do if you cannot have children. Fertility issues are better to be discussed in advance to avoid major setbacks later. Discuss if you are open to adoption, surrogacy, in vitro fertilization, and other methods to start a family.
Where do we want to end up?
It is important to ask yourself if you want to have a nomadic life, travelling from one culture to another or if you want to stay in one place and build a permanent home together. Discuss about being open to moving for work, health reasons, education, family etc.
Talk about your religious beliefs
Before getting married, talk with your partner about the importance of religion in the household. Will it bother your married life that you have different religious and spiritual beliefs? How will religion play a role in your life together? How do you want to raise your child?
What kind of home?
Discuss about what kind of home you want to settle down in. A flat? A villa? On rent? On loan? Discuss your long-term goals first.
Who does what?
Whether you want to leave your home in an organized mess or be completely OCD about cleanliness and the distribution of chores, make sure that your partner is on the same page as you.