Not only a few texts scare the hell out of guys, but also certain questions too can piss them off. Boys do not like drama in their life and that is why we have always read articles on what not to say to your man or what not to text to your man. Those tips are helpful sure, but there are deeper questions as well that are more important to avoid. Here are 9 questions you should never ask your boyfriend.
What is wrong with you? Why are you always doing that?
Negative judgment is never a good idea. Rather than attacking them with what you do not like, share what you like and how you feel when your partner does them. And when he does what you like, hug him and kiss him to appreciate his efforts.
Why do you never do what I want?
Do not blame your partner as it creates the atmosphere of hopelessness, distrust, and separation in the relationship. Do not blame your partner and make them feel bad. Instead of focusing on what your partner did wrong, focus on how you might improve the relationship.
Why are you so annoying, selfish?
Do not attack your partner personally when you are upset. You are together because you match on some level. To improve the quality of your relationship, honestly, express what you like and emphatically receive what he says.
Why cannot you relax?
If your man is in a fight, he cannot relax on your command. He is stressed and something bothering him else he would have been relaxed. Your partner might be upset and asking them to relax will certainly not get you the desired result. Understand where he is coming from before trying to change the things.
Why are you not better?
Honestly express what you like without using criticism, blame or demand. When your partner speaks listen emphatically on how they are and what they would like. Have an open and honest communication to nurture your relationship.
Are you sure you want to be with me?
Each partner is responsible for their self-respect and self-confidence. Express your interest in your partner and tell them you find them attractive on a day-to-day level to have a satisfying relationship. if you need a constant validation from your partner, it will be hard for your partner to admire or respect you.
Are you breaking up with me?
This is an unnecessary and emotionally destructive threat. This question escalates the conversation by threatening with the possibility of the breakup. If the argument is too heated, take a step back, re-evaluate the situation, and discuss the issue once the atmosphere is calmed.
When you knew it will make me uncomfortable, then why did you bring it up?
In order for an emotionally committed relationship to be fulfilling, we have to be willing and able to soothe ourselves independently within the relationship. It is challenging to self-soothe and self-confront at once. It means coming to terms with the parts of us that we may not like to see so much, like our own fears, anxieties, and insecurities.
Can I trust you? / Are you telling me the truth?
Asking this question is never a good idea. It puts your partner in defensive mode. And you can never trust the answer you will get. If you cannot trust someone, asking them for it will only drive you crazy. You either trust your partner or do not. If you do, then do not ask him such questions. If you do not, better you dump him.