11 Things You Should Have Common With Your Boyfriend!

By- Shreya Sharma

While choosing a boyfriend, you might be confused as some theories say “opposites attract” while some says, you should find a person with similar interests. You want the things to be exciting and fascinating, yet you want some similarities. Well! For every couple the story is different. While choosing a partner, there are a little things that should be common between you people, as otherwise it can be difficult for your relationship. Here are 11 things you should have common with your boyfriend.

1. Values

Sharing similar values and morals can save you trauma in your relationship. Your beliefs and values make you what you are and are of course important for you. You believe certain things and you will never stop doing that. Same will be the case with your boyfriend. So, it is better to have common values rather than having issues.

2. Family background

If you love to be with your family and your guy is not keen into this family kind of thing, then it could be problematic. He will not wish to hang out with your family as well and it will be difficult for you to get him to meet your family. Same problem may come when you wish to get married and have kids. You can avoid this issue if you both have similar family background and the same kind of belief.

3. Work ethics

If you are one ambitious girl, who wishes to climb the career ladder and be successful, whereas your boyfriend is super lazy and does not care about his own career, then you may have some major issues and tiffs which can even turn into ego clash. If you ask him that he is not putting in his efforts, then he may take it as you are judging him. if you both share same work ethics, it will be easy for you both to accept one another’s work and situation.

4. Vacation idea

Having the same vacation idea will put rest to so many issues. If you are the relaxing kind and he is the exploring kind, there might be conflict between you while travelling. The issue will be about destination and about how you spend your time there. This may lead to argument. So it is better to have same vacation idea.

5. Your personality

Opposites attract but having a completely different personality may be problematic. If your boyfriend is one serious kind of guy and you are one chirpy bird, with a great sense of humor, it may lead to many arguments. These issues may make you feel bad about yourself and you are not in a relationship to feel bad.

6. Being social

Okay, dating a guy who is not much social and does not have a big group is not really a problem, but if you are a social butterfly, and loves to party almost every night, then it may lead to some arguments. Not initially, but later sometime for sure. Find a partner who is as social as you or somewhat near to that because you will never like to leave your partner at home or to be at home, alone, every single night.       

7. Future plans

Think about your future plans while dating or looking for a partner because you will never want someone who does not believe your dreams or cannot contribute in your future plans. You want someone with whom you can talk about your future plans. If the person is lazy enough not to even earn for him, how would he contribute in your future plan?

8. At least one similar hobby or interest

You may not be into his basketball game and he may not be interested in your yoga sessions and many more such things. But having at least one similar hobby or interest should be a must. This will allow you to have much more time together, and you will have something in common to talk about. You can even develop some common interest by taking up something new that excites you both. It will make you both feel connected.

9. Your lifestyle

If you are super active and loves to live a healthy life, eating healthy food and hitting gym daily, and your boyfriend is one lazy bug, who just lies on the couch and plays video games and watches Netflix all time, and eats junk food all day long, then it is not going to be one happy healthy match. It is better to share somewhat similar lifestyle to avoid lectures.

10. How much you care

It is important to know that how much you care for one another. If you are too much into your boyfriend but he does not feel the same, then it could be one big problem. It will create an imbalance in terms of how much you care for one another which will be traumatizing if not addressed as early as possible.

11. Expectations

If you expect something from your partner, and you have just set the expectations standards and he fail to meet them, then this is one real problem. Expectations are more important in relationships than a lot of people realize. If you expect your boyfriend to spend more time with you and cut on his friend’s time, and he is not doing it, then this will be one big problem. You should have similar expectations.  You have to expect that your partner will give you the love and care and compassion and support that you need, and you should give him the same.