15 Signs You Aren’t As Mature You Think You Are!

By- Shreya Sharma

Most of us consider ourselves to be the mature people. But if that is the case, there will not be much of the drama in our life; like fights with friends or in office. If we were mature enough we would be able to handle and communicate our differences without any ugly situations. We do not admit that we are immature because we take it as an insult. When people call us immature, we take it as if the other person is trying to say that we need to grow up fast. Here are 15 signs you are not as mature as you think you are.

1. Being a tantrum queen

Disagreements are a part of living, and being an adult we should know how to handle it. If you still cannot handle disagreement without throwing fits and tantrums, you are still not mature. Being a tantrum queen will only eliminate people out of your life.

2. You do not take responsibility for your mistakes

True, it is not easy to admit your mistakes. But accepting your mistakes show that you understand that you are not perfect. Accepting your mistakes does not mean you are weak; you are really strong that you do not mind taking responsibility for your wrong actions. Admitting your mistakes will gain you respect and people will like you more.

3. You still live at home

You are young and adult and you should have moved out of your house. You need to be mature enough to not end up being a burden on your parents. Living with your parents is not wrong, but living on their charity when you can earn on your own, is what we call being immature.

4. You are broke even after having a job

If you do not have any chronic disease or some kind of debt, you should save money or should have enough money to cover your basic needs. If you are splurging your money on stupid stuff, and not saving even a penny, then you are not mature enough.  Being an impulse buyer is never ever acting mature.

5. The silent tantrums

Giving silent treatment to people is really annoying. It does not prove you are unhappy but you are immature. It shows that instead of ending the confrontation, you just want to drag it. Going for utter silence shows that you do not know how to process your emotions and communicate them in a mature way.

6. Thinking that you are the center of world

Sure, your actions may add something positive in someone’s life, but your actions have no bearing on the world. You are never the center of the world, never will be. Those who care about you are the ones who love you or are affected by your actions indirectly. If you think like this, you will be disappointed in the long run.

7. You cannot stick to one job

Being fired from your job may be disappointing but know that it has nothing to do with you. There are many things that are out of your control. But having too many jobs show that you just do not know how to act responsibly in your work place. And this can lend you in troubles will be seeking a new job as they will fear that you might leave the job.

8. No close relations

If the people you loved or the friends you made have left you, then you need some help. This shows that you are immature. You need a bit of self-reflection in your life to identify your problem. You need people in your personal and professional life. You should be able to make friends in your life; else you may end up being alone.

9. You play victim card

Playing the victim card is unattractive and immature. It is comforting to have people around you and making sure that you are okay. But do not use it as a reason to avoid personal responsibility. If you keep on playing the victim card, you will never work hard to achieve your dreams. Sometimes you really need some love and support, but do not stay in that mood for too long.

10. Saying yes to everything

You are not here to please people. Telling lie to people so that it does not hurt their feelings may lend them in an embarrassing situation. Your truth may have helped them avoid this ugly situation. Saying yes always never helps someone. Be strong enough to express your opinion and say no.

11. You are intolerant

Having your own beliefs are normal as you are one free individual. But being too rigid with your beliefs and disregarding other’s way of life is not being mature. The way you want to live your life on your own, the same is with others. You do not have to like and agree with everything, but you should allow people to live their life on their own.

12. You still need your parents support for everything

You will always need your parents support and there will be no one there for you like your parents. But as you grow, your dependence on your parents should be minimal. There will come a time when you will have to stand on your own. All you need from them is their wisdom and life lessons. Leaning on your parents for everything will lead you to failure because you will never be independent.

13. You cannot cook

Cooking is an essential survival skill, and you must know the basic cooking skills. You do not always have people around you to cook for you. You must know how to cook basic meals. You cannot live on takeaway always. Learn from your mom, cooking classes or online tutorials to cook and learn to make a few dishes step by step.

14. Eating like a child

By this age, you must have learned the skills needed to create balanced meals for yourself. It’s okay to binge on junk food now and again, or even to eat it regularly in moderation. Of course, those things taste way better, but they’re just not good for you. Our bodies can only sustain itself for so long without adequate nutrition. At some point, you have to let go of all of that and eat like an adult. Your body will thank you.

15. No phone calls

We do not mind talking on the phone or texting our friends and family 24*7, but when we have to make a phone call for work at office or college, we get nervous and act like we do not know how to speak. Phone calls require excellent communications skills. Texting has ruined phone calls. If you cannot call someone when you are in need, you are immature.