12 Things You Should Be Saying To Your Boyfriend That You Are Not!

By- Shreya Sharma

Honesty is like investing in a relationship for long run. But sadly when it is one new relationship or it is our first time, we make false claims and speak white lies to secure our relationship. Though you should be honest in your relationship but it can be hard to be honest, especially when it comes to your feelings as it makes you vulnerable opening up your heart and true feelings. And sometimes your honesty can also put you in trouble and fights. But the fact is, you need to be true and honest in your relationship, no matter what. Here are 12 things you should be saying to your boyfriend that you are not saying for what-ever-reason.

1. “I am on my periods and it is making me feel terrible”

If your periods scare your boyfriend off, he is not the one for you. We know it is natural process and we cannot help it. You should be comfortable enough saying you are on periods. You need not to go into complete details with it but yes you can tell him about not feeling well because of it or your mood swings.

2. “I do not like when you check out other girls in front of me”

It is human nature to look at attractive people and things and appreciate them; you cannot stop your boyfriend from doing that but this does not mean that you have to like them staring at other girl in front of you and commenting on her. If this upsets you, speak about it instead of acting fine and cool. Tell him about this honestly, so that next time he tries not to ne so verbal about it.

3. “I want some me time”

Fine, you are in a relationship but that does not mean you have to be in contact 24*7. If your boyfriend is that sort of and you like having some me time, then you should not pretend to be okay with his 24*7 buzzing nature because it will soon start irritating you. There is no harm in saying “I need to stay at home today!!” if he does not understand explain him your reason.

4. “I am worried that you might be doing something behind my back”

If you think your boyfriend is doing something shady and it is bothering you for quite some time, speak up.  It might be scary but it is better than to scan his phone or follow him. Yes, he may lie to you but there are chances that he may come clean and you may have a healthy discussion over this.

5. “I did not have an orgasm”

Why to fake an orgasm if you actually had none? This is like being sexually honest to your partner and yourself. It may sound harsh but you should speak about it because your pleasure also matters. You can go like “Though it did not work for me but I still enjoyed it.”

6. “I do not feel ok with the fact that you have a girl best friend”

If you are not comfortable with your man’s girl best friend, then you need to speak up. This communication is important, you just need to be nice and explain him your reasons and if you have insecurities.

7. “I Love You”

It works miracles!! He might not have said it but there is no rule that he has to say it first, right!! If you have that strong feeling and urge to say it, then say it.

8. “I feel so special when you do this”

You need to be honest about all your positive feelings as well. If his gesture and actions makes your heart melt, tell him about how great you felt so that it motivates him to do it again for you, even he likes compliments.

9. “I see our relationship going in this direction”

You should be honest about what you want from your relationship. If you want it to be serious exclusive kind of relationship, say it. And if he is not looking for long term relationship and you want it then do not think things will work out later on. Tell him what you want instead of doing what he wants and if you both desire something different, it is better you call it a quit.

10. “I am not comfortable with you doing that”

Just to be a cool girlfriend, you need not to act comfortable with the things you are not comfortable. Tell him if something makes you feel uncomfortable or upset.

11. “I am angry with you because..”

We generally do not tell our boyfriend that we are angry because either we want them to figure it out on their own or we are just scared to admit it. Acting in a passive aggressive manner and saying “I am Fine” does not solve your problem. It is better you tell your boyfriend about why you are angry with him.

12. “I want you to do this to me in bed”

It is tough to tell your boyfriend about what you want from him in bed; it could be because you are shy or because you do not wish to hurt his feelings. But the truth is that man loves it when you tell them what to do in bed, so it is better you speak about it.