9 Red-Flag Signs To Never Ignore In The Beginning Of Relationship!

By- Shreya Sharma

The beginning of a relationship is somewhat one unreal, strange feeling when you just cannot believe as to how things can be so good always. You always have those cherry red cheeks, thanks to blushing and butterflies in the stomach. Being loved and cared and being able to love someone back is indeed one great feeling. You feel energetic all day long and that urge to be with your partner never dies. But not for all, for some, everything is not that fluttery and flowery. Sometimes there are things about your partner that makes you feel uneasy and insecure. If your instinct says so, follow it because your instinct is smarter than you at times. Here are 9 red flag signs to never ignore in the beginning of a relationship.

1. He is attached to his phone

If you are on a date, and the guy cannot take a break from texting you, then this is one huge red flag. This shows that he does not value your time together to put down his phone and focus on you. Plus, think about who will need a constant immediate reply from him?

2. He cannot take decisions on his own

Decision making is sure difficult. But if your man is grown up enough and still seeks approval from his family, friends and you about some non-life changing, not so important issues, then it means his maturity level does not meet his age.

3. He criticizes you a lot

When in a relationship, it is sure that you will eventually get on each other’s nerves. But if you find those arguments, criticism, and nitpicking in the first few months of your relationship, then this is one red flag. If he is super critical of you, right from the beginning, you better be cautious.

4. He has not introduced you to his friends

So, you have made him meet your BFF, and your gang, but whenever you ask him to hang out with his friends, he always comes up with some classic or random excuse. It could be because his friends do not think of you two as a long term thing or they might have no clue that you even exist and for them, he is still single. It is better you confront him.

5. He endlessly talks about his ‘crazy’ exes

If the guy you are dating, talks ill and filthy about his exes, it shows that he has no respect for women who were once an important part of his life. Remember, you too can be in that category as well someday. It cannot happen that all of them were “crazy” or “bad”, it could be that he put them to that level or it could be that he is misrepresenting them to safeguard his image.

6. He lives a life way beyond his earnings

You know that he only has an entry level or part time job, but you have noticed him be the first one with all luxuries, like traveling the world with first class tickets. This could be because either he still lives on his parent’s money or he is the mountain of debt on credit card.

7. He is shady about his past

He never talks about his past relationship, his family or his career. It may be because he does not trust you enough to share about his life or may be because he is hiding something; these both are big red flags. Just ask him about it, and if he is still not straight with his answers, it is time you move on.

8. He posts more selfies than you do

It is weird but it shows that he strives for a constant gratification from others. This is not a good trait to be a potential man.

9. He messes up simple details about you

If it’s been a while that you are in relationship, and he just cannot remember your date of birth or the college you went to, it is time you think about it seriously. Either he doesn’t care enough to truly listen when you tell him about yourself, or worse, he’s confusing you with other girls he’s talking to.